Friday, June 08, 2007
Friday, June 01, 2007
Divorces , higher in developed nations.
I often hear people criticize the very high rates of divorce in the west–-particularly,
in the United States–-as being an example of all that’s wrong with the culture; they claim,
it reveals the lack of familial bonds, the superficiality of love and emotions,
the selfish me-centricism, and just the general decadence of the culture.
However, when I see the alarmingly low rates of divorce in other cultures – where divorce is a societal taboo,
such as in Japan, India, and China – I see the rampant disregard for individual human rights
(especially in the case of women), I see individuals choking under societal and familial pressure to
remain in suffocating relationships, I see individuals racked with emotional guilt for having extra-marital
affairs in the dark, for entering and remaining in marriages despite being gay, I see children growing up
with psychological scars from seeing their parents quarrel and fight before their own eyes, I see teenagers
rebelling against their parents and running away with their lovers or friends to escape the nightmare of
their homes occupied with two individuals who hate each other, I see youth engaging in frivolous sex and
self-destructive relationships unconsciously mimicking the failed and forced relationships their parents had,
I see women being raped by their husbands, men being forced into alcoholism and escapist hedonism,
I see a political society that gets increasingly moralistic and paternal because it believes that
morality must be forced upon people and that people are inherently evil, immoral, unruly, or savages.
Japan has the highest rates of suicide in the world. India has the highest number of people with AIDS
than any other country in the world.
Both Japan and India have very low divorce rates; but do not presume that this low rate reflects the
strong cultural values of marriage and love and relationships in these countries. Indeed, I argue,
it is quite the opposite.
In a sense, high divorce rates are good; in fact, it is an almost reliable indicator of a healthy and
prosperous culture that respects individual rights and allows individuals the space and freedom to BREATHE!
Marriage is only valuable, good, and moral to the extent that the individuals involved in it, make it so.
In other words, two individuals could be “live-in” partners and yet have a much stronger relationship than
some average married couple. It is not the nature of a relationship that lends it a certain moral value
but the individuals involved in it. People bring in value to a relationship, not some abstract notion of marriage.
Entering into marriage – being married – by default does not mean you are in some “valuable” and “serious”
relationship and must act accordingly. Within or without marriage, a couple (or group of individuals) can
still have a very meaningful and valuable relationship. Thus, I am not necessarily arguing for the position that
divorce is good or marriage is bad. To me, they are equally meaningless without considering the nature of individuals
involved.
Show me a culture with high divorce rates and I will show you a culture that’s prosperous, healthy, and free.
Marrying is certainly not a duty or an obligation – let alone an ethical one. Marriage is entirely optional,
and should be done with focused deliberation. Whether people enter into marriages solely depends on their
personal preferences in the matter (surely also with regard to the socio-political situation in their society).
A very apt quote by Morton Hunt that I include here:
Americans, who make more of marrying for love than any other people, also break up more of their marriages,
but the figure reflects not so much the failure of love as the determination of people not to live without it.
in the United States–-as being an example of all that’s wrong with the culture; they claim,
it reveals the lack of familial bonds, the superficiality of love and emotions,
the selfish me-centricism, and just the general decadence of the culture.
However, when I see the alarmingly low rates of divorce in other cultures – where divorce is a societal taboo,
such as in Japan, India, and China – I see the rampant disregard for individual human rights
(especially in the case of women), I see individuals choking under societal and familial pressure to
remain in suffocating relationships, I see individuals racked with emotional guilt for having extra-marital
affairs in the dark, for entering and remaining in marriages despite being gay, I see children growing up
with psychological scars from seeing their parents quarrel and fight before their own eyes, I see teenagers
rebelling against their parents and running away with their lovers or friends to escape the nightmare of
their homes occupied with two individuals who hate each other, I see youth engaging in frivolous sex and
self-destructive relationships unconsciously mimicking the failed and forced relationships their parents had,
I see women being raped by their husbands, men being forced into alcoholism and escapist hedonism,
I see a political society that gets increasingly moralistic and paternal because it believes that
morality must be forced upon people and that people are inherently evil, immoral, unruly, or savages.
Japan has the highest rates of suicide in the world. India has the highest number of people with AIDS
than any other country in the world.
Both Japan and India have very low divorce rates; but do not presume that this low rate reflects the
strong cultural values of marriage and love and relationships in these countries. Indeed, I argue,
it is quite the opposite.
In a sense, high divorce rates are good; in fact, it is an almost reliable indicator of a healthy and
prosperous culture that respects individual rights and allows individuals the space and freedom to BREATHE!
Marriage is only valuable, good, and moral to the extent that the individuals involved in it, make it so.
In other words, two individuals could be “live-in” partners and yet have a much stronger relationship than
some average married couple. It is not the nature of a relationship that lends it a certain moral value
but the individuals involved in it. People bring in value to a relationship, not some abstract notion of marriage.
Entering into marriage – being married – by default does not mean you are in some “valuable” and “serious”
relationship and must act accordingly. Within or without marriage, a couple (or group of individuals) can
still have a very meaningful and valuable relationship. Thus, I am not necessarily arguing for the position that
divorce is good or marriage is bad. To me, they are equally meaningless without considering the nature of individuals
involved.
Show me a culture with high divorce rates and I will show you a culture that’s prosperous, healthy, and free.
Marrying is certainly not a duty or an obligation – let alone an ethical one. Marriage is entirely optional,
and should be done with focused deliberation. Whether people enter into marriages solely depends on their
personal preferences in the matter (surely also with regard to the socio-political situation in their society).
A very apt quote by Morton Hunt that I include here:
Americans, who make more of marrying for love than any other people, also break up more of their marriages,
but the figure reflects not so much the failure of love as the determination of people not to live without it.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
someones dad the feminist
I had written a review on My Son The Chauvinist , an year back , and again i cam across this book and Was searching form the same book on google for buying it online .
And somehow i reached through this post titled My Dad The Feminist! on a girls blog , where she has wriiten all praises about her fathers support for her mon and reminiscing her childhood days.
It is a really interesting article to read .
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And somehow i reached through this post titled My Dad The Feminist! on a girls blog , where she has wriiten all praises about her fathers support for her mon and reminiscing her childhood days.
It is a really interesting article to read .
.
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
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Monday, March 12, 2007
Thursday, March 08, 2007
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
some good words
Know how to laugh when you are sad ...
know there is no shame in tears,
Scoff at cynics and beware of too much sweetness...
Sell ur brawn and brain to the highest bidders
Never to put a price-tag on your heart and soul.
know there is no shame in tears,
Scoff at cynics and beware of too much sweetness...
Sell ur brawn and brain to the highest bidders
Never to put a price-tag on your heart and soul.
Saturday, August 12, 2006
Maximes
Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613 - 1680)
French author & moralist
Good advice is something a man gives when he is too old to set a bad example.
[Advice]
Preserving health by too severe a rule is a worrisome malady.
[Health]
Why is it that our memory is good enough to retain the least triviality that happens to us,
and yet not good enough to recollect how often we have told it to the same person?
[Memory]
Gratitude is merely the secret hope of further favors.
[Gratitude]
We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones.
We always like those who admire us; we do not always like those whom we admire.
We all have strength enough to endure the misfortunes of others.
The height of cleverness is to be able to conceal it.
He who lives without folly isn't so wise as he thinks.
A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we take the least care of all to acquire.
When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.
We rarely think people have good sense unless they agree with us.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld Maximes (1678)
[Agreement]
It is a great ability to be able to conceal one's ability.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld Maxims, 1665
[Ability]
The glory of great men should always be measured by the means they have used to
acquire it.
[Fame]
To establish oneself in the world, one has to do all one can to appear established.
Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it.
[Possessions]
We should manage our fortunes as we do our health - enjoy it when good, be patient when it is bad,
and never apply violent remedies except in an extreme necessity.
It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible.
The pleasure of love is in loving.
When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.
, quoted in O Magazine, October 2002
[Relaxation]
Few things are impracticable in themselves; and it is for want of application, rather than of means,
that men fail to succeed.
When we are unable to find tranquillity within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.
What seems to be generosity is often no more than disguised ambition,
which overlooks a small interest in order to secure a great one.
No persons are more frequently wrong, than those who will not admit they are wrong.
Nothing is less sincere than our mode of asking and giving advice. He who asks seems to have a deference for
the opinion of his friend, while he only aims to get approval of his own and make his friend responsible for his action. And he who gives advice repays the confidence supposed to be placed in him by a seemingly disinterested zeal, while he seldom means anything by his advice but his own interest or reputation.
We should often be ashamed of our finest actions if the world understood our motives.
Small minds are much distressed by little things. Great minds see them all but are not upset by them.
To listen closely and reply well is the highest perfection we are able to attain in the art of conversation.
[Listening]
Our repentance is not so much regret for the ill we have done as fear of the ill that may happen to us in consequence.
Jealousy feeds upon suspicion, and it turns into fury or it ends as soon as we pass from suspicion to certainty.
If we had no faults of our own, we would not take so much pleasure in noticing those of others.
Few are agreeable in conversation, because each thinks of what he intends to say than of what others are saying, and
listens no more when he himself has a chance to speak.
Hypocrisy is the homage which vice pays to virtue.
However brilliant an action, it should not be esteemed great unless the result of a great motive.
, Maxims, 1665
Results from Cole's Quotables:
Quarrels would not last long if the fault were only on one side.
Confidence contributes more to conversation than wit.
The mind cannot long act the role of the heart.
Results from Rand Lindsly's Quotations:
We often forgive those who bore us, but we cannot forgive those whom we bore.
Results from Poor Man's College:
Vanity makes us do more things against inclination than reason.
The defects of the understanding, like those of the face, grow worse as we grow old.
The confidence which we have in ourselves gives birth to much of that which we have in others.
To be deceived by our enemies or betrayed by our friends in insupportable; yet by ourselves we are often content to be so treated.
Pride does not wish to owe and vanity does not wish to pay.
Philosophy triumphs easily over past evils and future evils; but present evils triumph over it.
We think very few people sensible, except those who are of our opinion.
We would frequently be ashamed of our good deeds if people saw all of the motives that produced them.
Not all those who know their minds know their hearts as well.
Minds of moderate caliber ordinarily condemn everything which is beyond their range.
In jealousy there is more of self-love, than of love to another.
Hope is the last thing that dies in man; and though it be exceedingly deceitful, yet it is of this good use to us, that while we are traveling through life it conducts us in an easier and more pleasant way to our journey's end.
We are more interested in making others believe we are happy than in trying to be happy ourselves.
He who lives without folly is not so wise as he imagines.
The truest mark of being born with great qualities, is being born without envy.
We often do good in order that we may do evil with impunity.
French author & moralist
Good advice is something a man gives when he is too old to set a bad example.
[Advice]
Preserving health by too severe a rule is a worrisome malady.
[Health]
Why is it that our memory is good enough to retain the least triviality that happens to us,
and yet not good enough to recollect how often we have told it to the same person?
[Memory]
Gratitude is merely the secret hope of further favors.
[Gratitude]
We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones.
We always like those who admire us; we do not always like those whom we admire.
We all have strength enough to endure the misfortunes of others.
The height of cleverness is to be able to conceal it.
He who lives without folly isn't so wise as he thinks.
A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we take the least care of all to acquire.
When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.
We rarely think people have good sense unless they agree with us.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld Maximes (1678)
[Agreement]
It is a great ability to be able to conceal one's ability.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld Maxims, 1665
[Ability]
The glory of great men should always be measured by the means they have used to
acquire it.
[Fame]
To establish oneself in the world, one has to do all one can to appear established.
Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it.
[Possessions]
We should manage our fortunes as we do our health - enjoy it when good, be patient when it is bad,
and never apply violent remedies except in an extreme necessity.
It is often merely for an excuse that we say things are impossible.
The pleasure of love is in loving.
When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.
, quoted in O Magazine, October 2002
[Relaxation]
Few things are impracticable in themselves; and it is for want of application, rather than of means,
that men fail to succeed.
When we are unable to find tranquillity within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.
What seems to be generosity is often no more than disguised ambition,
which overlooks a small interest in order to secure a great one.
No persons are more frequently wrong, than those who will not admit they are wrong.
Nothing is less sincere than our mode of asking and giving advice. He who asks seems to have a deference for
the opinion of his friend, while he only aims to get approval of his own and make his friend responsible for his action. And he who gives advice repays the confidence supposed to be placed in him by a seemingly disinterested zeal, while he seldom means anything by his advice but his own interest or reputation.
We should often be ashamed of our finest actions if the world understood our motives.
Small minds are much distressed by little things. Great minds see them all but are not upset by them.
To listen closely and reply well is the highest perfection we are able to attain in the art of conversation.
[Listening]
Our repentance is not so much regret for the ill we have done as fear of the ill that may happen to us in consequence.
Jealousy feeds upon suspicion, and it turns into fury or it ends as soon as we pass from suspicion to certainty.
If we had no faults of our own, we would not take so much pleasure in noticing those of others.
Few are agreeable in conversation, because each thinks of what he intends to say than of what others are saying, and
listens no more when he himself has a chance to speak.
Hypocrisy is the homage which vice pays to virtue.
However brilliant an action, it should not be esteemed great unless the result of a great motive.
, Maxims, 1665
Results from Cole's Quotables:
Quarrels would not last long if the fault were only on one side.
Confidence contributes more to conversation than wit.
The mind cannot long act the role of the heart.
Results from Rand Lindsly's Quotations:
We often forgive those who bore us, but we cannot forgive those whom we bore.
Results from Poor Man's College:
Vanity makes us do more things against inclination than reason.
The defects of the understanding, like those of the face, grow worse as we grow old.
The confidence which we have in ourselves gives birth to much of that which we have in others.
To be deceived by our enemies or betrayed by our friends in insupportable; yet by ourselves we are often content to be so treated.
Pride does not wish to owe and vanity does not wish to pay.
Philosophy triumphs easily over past evils and future evils; but present evils triumph over it.
We think very few people sensible, except those who are of our opinion.
We would frequently be ashamed of our good deeds if people saw all of the motives that produced them.
Not all those who know their minds know their hearts as well.
Minds of moderate caliber ordinarily condemn everything which is beyond their range.
In jealousy there is more of self-love, than of love to another.
Hope is the last thing that dies in man; and though it be exceedingly deceitful, yet it is of this good use to us, that while we are traveling through life it conducts us in an easier and more pleasant way to our journey's end.
We are more interested in making others believe we are happy than in trying to be happy ourselves.
He who lives without folly is not so wise as he imagines.
The truest mark of being born with great qualities, is being born without envy.
We often do good in order that we may do evil with impunity.
B.C. Suttah
BC Sutta song is composed by The Zeest band,
an underground Karachi(Pakistan) based band lead by Skip.
Composed by Skip(lead of Zeest), BC Sutta is his 4-5 year old raw composition which
probably reflects his own life. He says:
“I was in college and used to live hand-to-mouth. It’s a situation almost every boy faces when he wants to
change his life, though it might be a quick, ridiculous, rebellious change. At that time, I used to smoke
with my friends, and when my father came to know that I had been smoking, he often used to say BC sutta peeta
hai in lafango (wastrels) ke saath. BC sutta - a catchy phrase that struck my mind and quickly became a joke
among my friends. So in the end, I got something to write about, which could portray my own life, though in
a satirical manner.”
Lyrics of the song -
COUGHHSSS....OK THIS SONG IS DEDICATED TO ALL THE SMOKERS AND DOPERS BY ZEEST THE BAND...SO LETS HIT IT....BC SUTTA!
Dosto Mai BaiTha Mai Soutta Pee Raha
Abba Nay Mujhay SouTTa Peetay Daikh Liya
Ghar JuBB mai Phoncha Mujhay DunDa HoGaYa
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla .......
----CHORUS----
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
ColleGe Mai GaYa MujhaY piYar Ho GaYa
OsnaY Bhi Mujh seY MeRa Soutta Cheen liya
SaRko PaY GhooMa Mai TanHa ReH GaYa
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla .......
----CHORUS----
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
ShaaDi Howi Mai HusBanD Bunn GaYa
Raat Bhurr Thooka Mai Thukk K GiRR GaYa
KhosHiYo Ki KhaTiR MeRa SouTTa Chinn Gaya
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla .......
----CHORUS----
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C****...................
About the Band: Its an underground band in Karachi, it is a MISCONCEPTION that it is an Indian
Band situated in one of the IIT's. This misconeption occured because of the IIT Students' post about the song
an underground Karachi(Pakistan) based band lead by Skip.
Composed by Skip(lead of Zeest), BC Sutta is his 4-5 year old raw composition which
probably reflects his own life. He says:
“I was in college and used to live hand-to-mouth. It’s a situation almost every boy faces when he wants to
change his life, though it might be a quick, ridiculous, rebellious change. At that time, I used to smoke
with my friends, and when my father came to know that I had been smoking, he often used to say BC sutta peeta
hai in lafango (wastrels) ke saath. BC sutta - a catchy phrase that struck my mind and quickly became a joke
among my friends. So in the end, I got something to write about, which could portray my own life, though in
a satirical manner.”
Lyrics of the song -
COUGHHSSS....OK THIS SONG IS DEDICATED TO ALL THE SMOKERS AND DOPERS BY ZEEST THE BAND...SO LETS HIT IT....BC SUTTA!
Dosto Mai BaiTha Mai Soutta Pee Raha
Abba Nay Mujhay SouTTa Peetay Daikh Liya
Ghar JuBB mai Phoncha Mujhay DunDa HoGaYa
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla .......
----CHORUS----
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
ColleGe Mai GaYa MujhaY piYar Ho GaYa
OsnaY Bhi Mujh seY MeRa Soutta Cheen liya
SaRko PaY GhooMa Mai TanHa ReH GaYa
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla .......
----CHORUS----
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
ShaaDi Howi Mai HusBanD Bunn GaYa
Raat Bhurr Thooka Mai Thukk K GiRR GaYa
KhosHiYo Ki KhaTiR MeRa SouTTa Chinn Gaya
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla .......
----CHORUS----
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa MujhaY Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** Soutaa Soutta Na Milla
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C**** B***C**** M**C****
B***C**** M**C****...................
About the Band: Its an underground band in Karachi, it is a MISCONCEPTION that it is an Indian
Band situated in one of the IIT's. This misconeption occured because of the IIT Students' post about the song
Thursday, August 10, 2006
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
Saturday, July 29, 2006
every right handed software engineer uses his right hand more on the keyboard and the mouse .
Now but, my right hand was in a cast since 28th May 06 , i have arranged my work in such a way that i
could work by using my left hand on the keyboard and mouse , i have arranged it in such a way that i have to type less and most of the things i can do by copy+paste ,
yes it is that simple !!! A couple of days were a little arduous when i was making this arrangement , but since then life has become quite easy.
Hmmm... intially for some days working turned out to be practically impossibly for me
because i was psychologically so right handed. Even after i started working with my left hand i had this tendency of lifting with my right hand.
At the beginning , i was confined to bed for three weeks and I was told that for three weeks i would'nt be able to move my right hand and would go throuh hell , and I did. and yes i have typed most of this post with my right hand , and i am too happy about it.
Now but, my right hand was in a cast since 28th May 06 , i have arranged my work in such a way that i
could work by using my left hand on the keyboard and mouse , i have arranged it in such a way that i have to type less and most of the things i can do by copy+paste ,
yes it is that simple !!! A couple of days were a little arduous when i was making this arrangement , but since then life has become quite easy.
Hmmm... intially for some days working turned out to be practically impossibly for me
because i was psychologically so right handed. Even after i started working with my left hand i had this tendency of lifting with my right hand.
At the beginning , i was confined to bed for three weeks and I was told that for three weeks i would'nt be able to move my right hand and would go throuh hell , and I did. and yes i have typed most of this post with my right hand , and i am too happy about it.
Currently reading SHANTARAM
This is a test post for Hyper links
The moment one opens his mouth I know whether one is educated,
competent and successful--or just the opposite ( ot that is how i think). The words one uses and
how well he uses them tips me off instantly.
Studies show that how far you advance in your career, how much money you earn,
and even how successful you are socially are linked to your vocabulary.
Knowing what what a word means and how it is to be used correctly a lot of power and prestige.
Moreover, when you know the meaning of a word, you never have to feel left out or stupid
if someone else uses it in a conversation.
I remember a day in office when my boss said me that " Hey , when did u sneak in?" .
Well actually then i did not know what sneaking meant, but i answered
him "Yes , i did walk into the office very silently " guessing thats what he meant by
sneaking as per the circumstances then. But bro!! the next thing i did was use
the clause "define: sneak" in google search and to see what he meant and found
that i did not make stupid of myself in front of my boss.
This is a test post for Hyper links
The moment one opens his mouth I know whether one is educated,
competent and successful--or just the opposite ( ot that is how i think). The words one uses and
how well he uses them tips me off instantly.
Studies show that how far you advance in your career, how much money you earn,
and even how successful you are socially are linked to your vocabulary.
Knowing what what a word means and how it is to be used correctly a lot of power and prestige.
Moreover, when you know the meaning of a word, you never have to feel left out or stupid
if someone else uses it in a conversation.
I remember a day in office when my boss said me that " Hey , when did u sneak in?" .
Well actually then i did not know what sneaking meant, but i answered
him "Yes , i did walk into the office very silently " guessing thats what he meant by
sneaking as per the circumstances then. But bro!! the next thing i did was use
the clause "define: sneak" in google search and to see what he meant and found
that i did not make stupid of myself in front of my boss.
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Just so that you know, I do not believe in heroes. During the course of my life, given my well known ambitions,
I have often been asked (or in some cases told):
"Oh, you must really look up to xxxxx, right?"
The answer to this question and to other similar ones is a resounding "NO!"
In fact, I dismiss the entire concept of a "hero."
he-ro n. - In mythology and legend, a man, often of divine ancestry, who is endowed with great
courage and strength, celebrated for his bold exploits, and favored by the gods.
The reason I try not to admire anyone is because deep down inside I believe that all human beings
are fundamentally flawed and will never live up to your expectations for them (especially if you are
foolish enough to choose a hero who is a sports star or some other type of celebrity). I have preferred
instead to believe in myself as a sort of anti-hero because I know that I will never let myself down and
if I do then I can curse myself all I want. This doesn't mean that I possess delusions of grandeur but
rather that I believe in living an honest life and trying to set a good example by my actions.
wasn't always this cynical. Years ago someone that I admired greatly let me down and sent me on my path toward anti-herodom.
I have often been asked (or in some cases told):
"Oh, you must really look up to xxxxx, right?"
The answer to this question and to other similar ones is a resounding "NO!"
In fact, I dismiss the entire concept of a "hero."
he-ro n. - In mythology and legend, a man, often of divine ancestry, who is endowed with great
courage and strength, celebrated for his bold exploits, and favored by the gods.
The reason I try not to admire anyone is because deep down inside I believe that all human beings
are fundamentally flawed and will never live up to your expectations for them (especially if you are
foolish enough to choose a hero who is a sports star or some other type of celebrity). I have preferred
instead to believe in myself as a sort of anti-hero because I know that I will never let myself down and
if I do then I can curse myself all I want. This doesn't mean that I possess delusions of grandeur but
rather that I believe in living an honest life and trying to set a good example by my actions.
wasn't always this cynical. Years ago someone that I admired greatly let me down and sent me on my path toward anti-herodom.
Friday, June 30, 2006
my nerdiness
Yahoo Mail
After the test i took to measure my nerdiness, this is the message i got:
Overall, you scored as follows:
23% scored higher (more nerdy), and
77% scored lower (less nerdy).
What does this mean? Your nerdiness is:
Mid-Level Nerd. Wow, it takes a lot of hard nerdy practice to reach this level.
After the test i took to measure my nerdiness, this is the message i got:
Overall, you scored as follows:
23% scored higher (more nerdy), and
77% scored lower (less nerdy).
What does this mean? Your nerdiness is:
Mid-Level Nerd. Wow, it takes a lot of hard nerdy practice to reach this level.
Friday, May 05, 2006
A Praise sals
It was my second appraisal which i have faced at my work place , though the second looked better then the first one. but i dont know how is it going to affect my salary hike
Below is the letter which i got from my boss this year (it looks good aye...)
Dear Dharmesh Tripathi,
I recognize your contribution during the performance year 2005 and we look forward for your continued success at IBM.
Based on your self evaluation, customer’s assessment and overall results, I recognize you with rating of 2 (solid contributor).
You have demonstrated strengths in the following areas and I commend you for the same and wish you to capitalize on these for mutual benefit of yourself and IBM:
Quick learner
Good customer focus
Adopting to new changes
Working beyond the call of duty
Good knowledge on Portal billing application
Specific areas for improvement are:
Improve on presentation and communication skills.
Contribution to project and organizational initiatives.
In 2006, I foresee you taking more responsibilities and focusing on your areas for improvement.
Your skills and the experience that you have acquired are of utmost importance to IBM.
I am just waititng for the material benefits , which i shall get from this appraisal.
Below is the letter which i got from my boss this year (it looks good aye...)
Dear Dharmesh Tripathi,
I recognize your contribution during the performance year 2005 and we look forward for your continued success at IBM.
Based on your self evaluation, customer’s assessment and overall results, I recognize you with rating of 2 (solid contributor).
You have demonstrated strengths in the following areas and I commend you for the same and wish you to capitalize on these for mutual benefit of yourself and IBM:
Quick learner
Good customer focus
Adopting to new changes
Working beyond the call of duty
Good knowledge on Portal billing application
Specific areas for improvement are:
Improve on presentation and communication skills.
Contribution to project and organizational initiatives.
In 2006, I foresee you taking more responsibilities and focusing on your areas for improvement.
Your skills and the experience that you have acquired are of utmost importance to IBM.
I am just waititng for the material benefits , which i shall get from this appraisal.
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Rules for would-be winners of wars and life in general
This aint any S*** bro !!
I am writing these rules to win after doing a lot of analysis.
Rules for would-be winners of wars and life in general
1.)Know Thy Enemy, Know Thyself (Then Pick Your Spots)
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
2.) Lie and Spy (or You're Sure to Die)
"There are no areas in which one does not employ spies."
3.) Consider the Ocean (or Even the River)
"A military force has no constant formation, as water has no constant shape."
Translation: be flexible, be creative, and take whatever advantage or opportunity your enemy gives you.
"Changing and adapting according to the opponent, is called a genius"
4.) Take Care of #1 (and the Rest Takes Care of Itself)
"Being unconquerable lies with yourself; being conquerable lies with the enemy."
5.)Win Fast (or Don't Fight)
"It is never beneficial to a nation to have a military operation continue for a long time."
I am writing these rules to win after doing a lot of analysis.
Rules for would-be winners of wars and life in general
1.)Know Thy Enemy, Know Thyself (Then Pick Your Spots)
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
2.) Lie and Spy (or You're Sure to Die)
"There are no areas in which one does not employ spies."
3.) Consider the Ocean (or Even the River)
"A military force has no constant formation, as water has no constant shape."
Translation: be flexible, be creative, and take whatever advantage or opportunity your enemy gives you.
"Changing and adapting according to the opponent, is called a genius"
4.) Take Care of #1 (and the Rest Takes Care of Itself)
"Being unconquerable lies with yourself; being conquerable lies with the enemy."
5.)Win Fast (or Don't Fight)
"It is never beneficial to a nation to have a military operation continue for a long time."
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